Victors Problem Thought Process

Victors Problem Thought Process

This is a personal post today. Well not usually what I write about, I felt the need today.

I am one of the most positive people I know. When a problem arises I quickly think how can I solve this? Help with this? What can I do?

Over the years me and my wife have shared our ups and downs, we still continue through them today. Have you ever woke up without a job? Lost a relationship close to you? Or just made a really bad decision? I have experienced them all myself. And it has been a positive attitude that’s keeps me coming back for more.

I have a thought process I run through my mind everytime. I mediate and deliberate.

First I define the problem. Here is a great example, is the problem the sticker shock from the electric company or the fact I left lights 24/7? Or is it that I need to make more money now because costs are creeping up? The goal here is to define the problem not the emotions at that moment.

Second I allow myself time to be upset. I usually allow about 15 minutes. Really Victor? Only that much time? Yes. If you need more time take it, just try to stay away from the one hour mark.

Third I look for a solution to focus on. Is the solution that you need to make more money or that you need a certain amount of money? Is the answer that you need to spend more time with a certain someone? How much? What kind of time? The point is this, I look for my way out. I set the goal and I work towards it. I have many goals I am working towards now. But removing my thoughts  from the problem and focusing my energy on the solution has at so many times, kept me from falling apart.

Fourth I refuse to let the past define me. A mistake is the past and there is nothing you can do to change it. You can learn and grow from it, but you can’t change it. Here is the biggest key of all: I work towards the goals not to avoid the mistake of the past, but to position myself for the future. Don’t ever live your life afraid of making a mistake.

So there you have it. I hope this helps someone over come some problem.  On a side note. I have begun to use the wisdom of the bible to make my choices now and things seem to be working better, I’m just saying.

If you know someone who has a mountain to climb, please share this with them.